As parents we have to make sure we provide a good home and take care of all the needs for our children. This usually means that both mom and dad have to work. I don’t know how they used to do it way back when, with 8 kids and the stay at home mom. That seems like the craziest thing you ever heard these days. Now it seems like both parents work just to support 2 kids. However you look at it …work is a necessity.
What you need to remember is that it does all connect and at the same time it is all separate. When you go to work you are always thinking of what is going on at home. And when you are at home you are thinking about work. The thing is, you need to make sure they are balanced. Make sure when you are at work you are giving them your full attention. You may need to make calls during the day or finalize plans…do this on your lunch break. The work day is for work. The better your work is, the better you look in the eyes of your employer and the better you feel about yourself at the end of the day. It feels great to know you accomplished something or made a difference in someone else’s life by what you did at work that day. The goal at work is to show your worth and dedication to the company. This also helps further your career, create job security and your value will show in your well earned paycheck.
The company you work for is your daytime family M-F or whichever hours you work. You provide for and take care of the needs for your family. This creates a strong bond. On the flip side, when you are at home with your family… there never seems to be enough time to fit everything in. Kids have school, sports, friends and they DO want to spend time with you. You have to fit that all in with the regular day to day stuff like cleaning the house, doing laundry, taking care of the pets, slowing down to eat a couple times and running some errands. Man I’m tired just thinking about it.
Coming from someone with 4 kids (I usually count my husband as a 5th child), a dog and a full time job… I can tell you it’s no small task. You want to give them everything you never had as a kid while making sure they have everything they need. You can give them what they need, but you will have to make sacrifices with what they want. Kids want everything! Remember as much as they whine when they have to spend time with the family instead of going to party or an event, they really do enjoy it. Kids really want to spend time with YOU! You are the ones they look up to the most. They need to feel unconditionally loved by YOU. That is what really matters no matter how they seem to show it, it’s what they need and want.
In the future I hope to share many thoughts and ideas that I have researched and hopefully some of yours to help with that constant battle of work and home. Tell me about your struggles. What would you like to hear about? Do you have any helpful advice to share? What kinds of ideas do you have for family fun?